Most women have been programmed to believe that self-love is selfish and that self-sacrifice is a virtue. Many focus their desire for love and wholeness outside themselves and onto others, such as their partners, only to feel disappointed that they don’t get back what they give.
With I Love Me More: How to Find Happiness and Success Through Self-Love (Greenleaf/ Braintrust Ink, Coming 2022), Jenna Banks sets out to crush the myths about how we should relate to ourselves.
For a long time, Banks was supreme ruler of the Kingdom of I Don’t Deserve That. She gave too much to her relationships, allowed the needs and wants of others to trump hers, and generally felt inadequate and inferior. Her years of childhood abuse, emotional neglect, and toxic relationships culminated in a life fraught with self-loathing and self-doubt. After dropping out of high school, attempting suicide, becoming a young mother, and being estranged from her parents, Banks was driven to change the trajectory of her life. She knew she had to learn to love herself and began to engage with self-love as a practical life force.
What she discovered, however, is that simply loving yourself is not the key to overcoming shame and self-sabotage. Banks details how self-love is nice, but it’s not the whole truth. You need to love yourself more—more than your spouse, more than your kids, more than your family, more than your friends, more than your boss . .
In this practical guide, Banks levels-up the topic of self-love and introduces multiple, practical strategies to live a guilt-free “I love me more” lifestyle as she walks you through topics such as defining self-love, the ways we sabotage self-love, how to put yourself first, how to use self-love to be valued at work, how to balance caring for yourself and caring for others, and how to embrace your inner warrior goddess.
Peppered with her intimate personal experiences, along with scientific research and excerpts from experts and respected authors, I Love Me More shares these valuable lessons:
- You must love yourself more than anyone else
- It’s okay to say no
- Don’t look for external approval. What you feel about yourself is what matters most
- How you treat yourself is how you will be treated by others
- Always trust your intuition, even when it makes no sense.
- Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you’ll ever have
I Love Me More is your road map to a personally designed paradise of happiness, power, purpose, and passion.